The reality is that sexual abuse (molestation as well as inappropriate sexual exploration) happens much more frequently than we care to admit or realize. It’s an age-old problem but that doesn’t make it an easy one to solve.
Many kids survive without any help at all – with impacts later in life – keeping their parents blissfully unaware of what has happened to them.
Parent’s tend to over-reaction, allowing their fears to drive them and yet they also feel awkward and under-qualified addressing sexual issues so they flounder when it comes to providing effective support. They are not alone, counselors also find this difficult and in some cases do more harm than good. Obviously we can solve all this with a single blog post, right? Well maybe not in one post but at least some of the key considerations can be raised. Read the rest of this entry
The last thing we want to hear as a parent is that our child has been sexually abused. This was the one thing that I thought I so carefully guarded my children against. I told them not to talk to strangers and I told them if anyone ever tried to touch them in the places where their bathingsuits covered tell them to go away and then tell me.
Kaylee always wore long sleeves and no matter how hot the day was, she was never seen without them. She seemed well-balanced and although she wasn’t super pretty, she had a lot of good friends; Read the rest of this entry
She was a hospital charge nurse with a problem. Her control of her staff wasn’t that great, but worse, she suffered from a critical attitude and an overwhelming Read the rest of this entry
She was one of those people who look at a half full glass and declare it is empty. With practice she learned to Read the rest of this entry
If you smoke or you fit the definition of obesity, you’ve been subsidized by everyone else in the past and that’s about to change. You can look forward to paying more for health care. Seems the insurers have worked out you are a higher risk category so you cost them more for coverage. Read the rest of this entry
His parents were so worried about him. No one else in the family had been through this and no one knew how to support them through it. They had done everything “by the book,” they tried every idea that looked promising, and even a few things that were kind of far out. It made no difference. Their son’s fourth birthday had come and gone without him speaking a word. He’d never spoken a word in his entire life, not even baby ones! At first they comforted themselves that he was on his own path and would learn to talk in time but four years was becoming a real stretch. He seemed relatively normal in other ways but he couldn’t speak and showed no interest in reading. It was becoming obvious that their son was not developing normally and folks were beginning to notice. You can only hide something like that for so long. Their despair was rising. Read the rest of this entry
The problem with a contest is that it producers losers! Ten people race but only one can win; one person gloats about his supremacy while nine people glower in shame and clutch for excuses. There are more losers than winners. This is okay if you are a winner since it proves what you already knew about yourself (and about the others) and you can bask in the glory of being awesome. It’s not so great for the losers. Read the rest of this entry
Joe was pretty happy with life and he was excited about his upcoming wedding. It had been arranged for ages and everything was happening like it should. He took the view that a man needed a good woman like his one and he planned on being the best husband he could be. He was delighted to meet with her dad for a little man-on-man time and he hurried to be on time for the meeting. He thought the old guy looked a bit somber as he greeted him but his puzzlement turned to shock when the old man started to speak. Read the rest of this entry
Success and failure are important to us. Early in life we learn that it is a bad thing to fail (however we learn to define that word) and a good thing to succeed. Failure isn’t something we broadcast since we don’t want others to know we’ve messed up. Later we realize there is a huge difference between failing and Read the rest of this entry