What’s with Arnold Schwarzenegger? Isn’t making a huge fool of yourself once enough for him? Maybe he enjoys trashing his family, turning his knife in their wounds while he makes a desperate attempt to get back into the limelight.
Busted! So our automatic response is to hotly protest, “I didn’t do it!” “I’m not to blame!” Our denial attempts to save face but locks us into a growing web of deception, lies and half-truths. It spreads since we often need others to collaborate our statements of innocence. It spawns character assassination of others as we cast aspersions on their credibility and their statements of fact. The bigger the issue the greater the need for duplicity.
She grew up feeling she was different from other girls. She hated the way her uncle forced her to keep their secret and she lived in dread of the times when she would have to stay at his house. Read the rest of this entry
It’s our overwhelming need for being free from blame that drives us into a weak place when something bad happens to us. For peace of mind we seem to need the reassurance that we are not to blame and so it is natural for us to Read the rest of this entry
|Eric Kounssays, “And finally, even as God is able to forgive only those who recognize their need of His forgiveness and call upon Him for it, we are able to offer forgiveness only to those who acknowledge their offense and request it (Luke 17:1-4). “Forgiveness” which is not acknowledged and received by the offending party is not genuine forgiveness at all. It may make us feel better, but it is not really forgiveness.”One of our discerning readers has raised an important and very practical question which needs to be considered, “How would you counsel a Christian who has been sexually abused by his father, for example, where the issue has never been reconciled?”|
Some years ago, when I was pastor of a small, rural church, the wife of one of our elders developed a serious illness from which she died within two years. At an elders’ meeting shortly after her diagnosis, her husband shared with us the difficulty he was experiencing in dealing with this situation. At that point another elder put his hand on the young man’s shoulder and said something like, “I know what you must be feeling just now.”
- How To Be Offended, Resentful and Forgiven All At Once. (citesimon.com)
- Can You Forgive Abusers You've Escaped? (authorjaenwirefly.wordpress.com)
- The Elusive Hobgoblin of Self-Forgiveness (recoveringwayward.wordpress.com)
The memory just would not fade! She tried everything she knew and was always subconsciously looking for ideas wherever she went, but still there were times of total recall that left her terrified and sweating. Read the rest of this entry
Life delivers us set-backs and heavy blows and, to be real, it takes a lot to get up and press on sometimes. We’d like to think we are so in control that nothing catches us off-guard and we’d be total Read the rest of this entry
She was very quiet; didn’t say much but she followed every word and tracked the lesson even though it was in the language she had only begun to learn after she arrived at Read the rest of this entry