If I’d never paid attention to anything in the bible I wonder what my faith would be like? When kids are little, they learn how to live by watching the big people. That’s how they learn things like trust, fear and distrust, and when to make a fuss about being hurt. What the big people do inspires the little people to imitate until it becomes part of their automatic response to life. This election has given me new insights! Read the rest of this entry
Winning vs. Taking: What Does Winning Mean to Abusive, High-Conflict and/or Personality Disordered Women?
There's a new article on www.Shrink4Men.com that explores what "winning" means to abusive, high-conflict and/or personality disordered people. To an abusive BPD/NPD, "winning" is about taking from others, hurting and controlling them. Winning is not about working hard to achieve a goal. This explains why these individuals are rarely happy, even when they succeed in taking material assets, relationships and other tangible and intangible things from their victims.
Jon Stewart had fun with it (in a nice way), David Letterman wasn’t so nice but both were responding to the sheer idiocy of the furor over an ancient scrap of papyrus suggesting that someone named Jesus used the word “wife. ” It is only because we are so desperate for Read the rest of this entry
I had lots of burning questions and I wanted to know all the right answers. Things were happening to me that I couldn’t understand. They’d told me it was easy to follow Jesus and that he wanted me to have a life of “abundance and freedom.” I hadn’t seen that. Read the rest of this entry
She had really screwed up this time, she just knew her parents were going to freak out when they heard what she had done. All those hopes they held for her and all the guilt trips they used to keep her “under control” were wasted now. Yet, “It wasn’t my problem” she reasoned. “I’m my own person, I don’t have to live my life as their prisoner. Why do I have Read the rest of this entry
“He’s daydreaming beyond his talents,” Dan said about our buddy. The subject of this remark was an overly ambitious young guy. “He would go so much further if he wasn’t so clueless.” Read the rest of this entry
If you can understand him, old Will Shakespeare gave us some great insights. Try this one for size: When Macbeth had his ambition stirred by three witches pointing out he could become king by assassinating his faithful lord, he drew back from committing the crime.
His hardened wife read his letter hinting at his emotions and mused of him: “Thou wouldst be great; Art not without ambition, but without the illness that should attend it.” Read the rest of this entry
Busted! So our automatic response is to hotly protest, “I didn’t do it!” “I’m not to blame!” Our denial attempts to save face but locks us into a growing web of deception, lies and half-truths. It spreads since we often need others to collaborate our statements of innocence. It spawns character assassination of others as we cast aspersions on their credibility and their statements of fact. The bigger the issue the greater the need for duplicity.
Ever wanted to know what life has for you? Will you find that perfect partner, will you find the career of your dreams, will you be rich, have great kids, survive your divorce, pass the final exam? Should you take out a loan for that new car or buy a house or walk away from the house you can no longer afford, get a student loan, look for a new job, ask that girl on a date, . . . We have questions but who has the answers? Read the rest of this entry
“God told me I am to work with you this year.” Liz had learned the hard way to take this statement very lightly. She had worked hard to build a top-notch children’s ministry and it was incredibly effective. She had a lot of fun working with the kids Read the rest of this entry