Category Archives: Self-awareness
It was a harmless dalliance far from home. Who would know? Who would care? A man has needs and you can hardly blame him for meeting them.
He was a prize, something no one else could get. Knowing him brought recognition and respect, securing his attention was a good thing so you can hardly blame a girl for using her natural endowments to get ahead in life. Read the rest of this entry
Waikaremoana is a beautiful lake nestled in hills and surrounded by dense forests. It’s hard to find and few folks take the time to escape the rat race to go there while the tortuous road to the lake takes its toll by assaulting those foolhardy enough to accept its challenge. Read the rest of this entry
The reality is that sexual abuse (molestation as well as inappropriate sexual exploration) happens much more frequently than we care to admit or realize. It’s an age-old problem but that doesn’t make it an easy one to solve.
Many kids survive without any help at all – with impacts later in life – keeping their parents blissfully unaware of what has happened to them.
Parent’s tend to over-reaction, allowing their fears to drive them and yet they also feel awkward and under-qualified addressing sexual issues so they flounder when it comes to providing effective support. They are not alone, counselors also find this difficult and in some cases do more harm than good. Obviously we can solve all this with a single blog post, right? Well maybe not in one post but at least some of the key considerations can be raised. Read the rest of this entry
They were molested by Sandusky at various ages and for a variety of times. We don’t have and don’t need a lot of details to understand that the experience was life-changing for these boys.
We don’t know that much about their families and other experiences in life but the impression is that mostly their families were less than ideal. They have baggage from that too.
Add the passing of time and the years of covering up and denying what they had experienced at the hands of Sandusky; add the usual cocktail of self-blame, uncertainty in relationships, secrecy, experimentation, having other vulnerable kids around them . . . and it’s not hard to see that what Sandusky started took on a life of its own. The effects continued and grew. Read the rest of this entry
The last thing we want to hear as a parent is that our child has been sexually abused. This was the one thing that I thought I so carefully guarded my children against. I told them not to talk to strangers and I told them if anyone ever tried to touch them in the places where their bathingsuits covered tell them to go away and then tell me.
Sure it’s a far-fetched fantasy but that doesn’t make it pointless. It ignores God and reality but does that make it useless? Real people hurt like this and fantasize about the answers they want. The power of the fantasy is that Read the rest of this entry
You know there's a whole lot more to being honest with yourself than simply getting rid of fear, though that is a massive subject of its own. Since we are on the thought, how about those other categories of our lives? You know what I mean, right? Those pesky little "hold-backs" that put roadblocks and obstacles in our path, need a little further illumination.