Category Archives: Relationships
It was a harmless dalliance far from home. Who would know? Who would care? A man has needs and you can hardly blame him for meeting them.
He was a prize, something no one else could get. Knowing him brought recognition and respect, securing his attention was a good thing so you can hardly blame a girl for using her natural endowments to get ahead in life. Read the rest of this entry
The reality is that sexual abuse (molestation as well as inappropriate sexual exploration) happens much more frequently than we care to admit or realize. It’s an age-old problem but that doesn’t make it an easy one to solve.
Many kids survive without any help at all – with impacts later in life – keeping their parents blissfully unaware of what has happened to them.
Parent’s tend to over-reaction, allowing their fears to drive them and yet they also feel awkward and under-qualified addressing sexual issues so they flounder when it comes to providing effective support. They are not alone, counselors also find this difficult and in some cases do more harm than good. Obviously we can solve all this with a single blog post, right? Well maybe not in one post but at least some of the key considerations can be raised. Read the rest of this entry
They were molested by Sandusky at various ages and for a variety of times. We don’t have and don’t need a lot of details to understand that the experience was life-changing for these boys.
We don’t know that much about their families and other experiences in life but the impression is that mostly their families were less than ideal. They have baggage from that too.
Add the passing of time and the years of covering up and denying what they had experienced at the hands of Sandusky; add the usual cocktail of self-blame, uncertainty in relationships, secrecy, experimentation, having other vulnerable kids around them . . . and it’s not hard to see that what Sandusky started took on a life of its own. The effects continued and grew. Read the rest of this entry
Winning vs. Taking: What Does Winning Mean to Abusive, High-Conflict and/or Personality Disordered Women?
There's a new article on www.Shrink4Men.com that explores what "winning" means to abusive, high-conflict and/or personality disordered people. To an abusive BPD/NPD, "winning" is about taking from others, hurting and controlling them. Winning is not about working hard to achieve a goal. This explains why these individuals are rarely happy, even when they succeed in taking material assets, relationships and other tangible and intangible things from their victims.
What’s with Arnold Schwarzenegger? Isn’t making a huge fool of yourself once enough for him? Maybe he enjoys trashing his family, turning his knife in their wounds while he makes a desperate attempt to get back into the limelight.
The last thing we want to hear as a parent is that our child has been sexually abused. This was the one thing that I thought I so carefully guarded my children against. I told them not to talk to strangers and I told them if anyone ever tried to touch them in the places where their bathingsuits covered tell them to go away and then tell me.
Everything we do carries a price tag of consequences. Free is not so free after all. Take the case of this lunatic video trailer which is tearing the Arab world apart – few of us have seen the actual video and odds are that very few of those protesting across the Arab world have seen it either. Read the rest of this entry
How ever did we arrive at a national philosophy of antagonism? We could elect people to office based on their ability (potential) to actually solve problems but prefer to have two parties that are obliged to Read the rest of this entry
I had lots of burning questions and I wanted to know all the right answers. Things were happening to me that I couldn’t understand. They’d told me it was easy to follow Jesus and that he wanted me to have a life of “abundance and freedom.” I hadn’t seen that. Read the rest of this entry